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In this video, I talk about the definition of racism I was raised with vs the actual definition of racism. I also discuss the subject of “reverse racism”.
First, thank you for your courageous work, for being out there and making the world smarter. I as a white cis straight male am always grateful for voices who are not arguing from my perspective on issues of gender and race and sexuality and I’m learning a lot.
I would like to say something to my fellow white folks about defining racism and how the first definition – the one you were raised with – is itself an act of racist oppression that white folks like me need to stop defending asap.
This applies to men defining sexism or feminism, cis people defining transphobia or straight people defining homophobia as well. Just generally what happens when the people in power set the terms of what can be labelled oppressive or not.
The first definition you talk about allows white people to slip out of productive conversations about race:
- you say something about white people, they hear reverse racism, conversation over.
- you call a white person out on their racist behavior, they say they “like” colored folks, unfair attack or misreading me, conversation over.
- you point to a racist law or policy, nobody meant for colored people to be hit hardest, it’s just how it turned out, the colored people must have done something wrong, conversation over.
- I’m not racist, but…
…and so on.
As long as “racism” means “disliking people from different race” everybody gets a free pass. I don’t mean it that way, so it was not racist. And if you criticise you are unfairly attacking me, blabla, I’m a nice guy blabla, you are just playing the race card, whawha.
The colloquial use of the term “racism” is like an impenetrable shield against criticism and change because it protects the oppressive systems and behaviors we have by not letting us talk about it.
So, dear white people, definitions are man-made devices to serve a specific purpose in conversations, in education, in politics, in culture, in science… People found something, recognized something as a thing/concept and gave it a name so we can work with that thing together.
And if there are multiple definitions of racism out there, we have to choose the one that let’s us talk about racism in a productive way, not the one that let’s us white people of the hook and shuts people of color up.
Silencing people of color is racist.
Not taking responsibility as a white person for fighting the racial injustices caused and maintained by the white people we pay for, we vote for, we work for and by ourselves – just reaping the benefits of it – is racist.
White people don’t get to define what racism is. The oppressors don’t get to define what oppression is. No matter how educated a white person is, how many books on our shelfs confirm our view, how big we made it professionally, how old and wise we are, we white people SUCK at defining racism, because – as humans do – nobody wants to be evil, so we cover our ass.
Stop covering your ass. If you use a definition of racism – or sexism or homophobia or transphobia – that is not forcing your conscience to change yourself a little everyday, you are doing it wrong. No matter what the elders told you.
everytime it gets close to October i start reblogging the fuck out of this
– Lapfoxs (via dntdodrugs)
1. Do not kill yourself. Killing yourself is very messy and your mother will cry over you. It is not beautiful or brave, and even if it was, you will not be around to see that.
2. Washing your hair is going to be a chore. But you should do it anyway. Because you will feel better about yourself.
3. Get up late. Have a lay in. Sleep past your alarm. You have a very long life ahead of you and for now you should appreciate the cold side of your pillow.
4. He is going to break your heart but he’s just another male human who finds it hard to deal with Mondays, too. So in a month you’ll wake up and you won’t even remember that little scar on his knuckle you kissed.
5. Don’t spend hours looking up what your name means on google. Your name is your name and you should go out there and do heroic and good deeds and give your name your own meaning.
6. Don’t fight your demons. Your demons are here to teach you lessons. Sit down with your demons and have a drink and a chat and learn their names and talk about the burns on their fingers and scratches on their ankles. Some of them are very nice.
7. Music is good for your soul. Rap music will energise you and boost your ego and pop music will cheer you up. Indie music will make you think and emotional songs will make you cry and think about that boy again. It’s healthy.
8. Victim complexes are not attractive. Boys and girls will not date you because you are sad. They are not going to date you and kiss your aching bones and cure you of your dragging depression. Wake up. Take a bath. Do your hair. Be attractive.
9. Sadness is not poetic. Depression is not beautiful. Laying in bed all day and eating too much is lazy and disgusting and it is not tragic or pretty. Get up. Go outside. Let the sun warm your bones. Live.
10. If it makes you happy, buy twenty of it. Dedicate your life to it. Print it on tv shirts and collect things and draw art of it. Do not care what people think. They are the unhappy people you need to avoid. The abuse they will hurl at you is painless compared to how sad they are. Pity them. Remain happy.
11. You are allowed to he angry. But the world is not working against you. The flowers do not bloom for you and when your mother shouts ask her if she is okay instead of thinking she hates you. She never will. The world walks beside you and is silent. It does not trip you up or carry you.
12. Day and night cycles are natural. Humans only sleep at night because we used to avoid predators in the dark because of our poor eyesight. Stay awake until 5am watching bad reality shows. Wake up at 7pm and have breakfast.
13. Eat when you are hungry. Being bored does not constitute a chocolate bar. Sleep with you are tired. Do not mindlessly obey the sleep at night rule. If you are not tired, do not sleep.
A woman sitting by herself is not waiting for you.– Caitlin Stasey. (via mysharona1987)
HAPPY MOMMY HAPPY BABIES
So apparently it’s a turnoff to yodel during sex?